- Eternally childish - both intellectually and emotionally, a Gemini simply refuses to grow up, and will often mooch of off someone until old age.
- His only true passion is pointless chatter, which he has mastered to perfection. A Gemini can talk for hours without ever getting to the point.
- He reads little, but has an opinion on every issue - even though he will change it about a dozen times a week. It is not uncommon for a Gemini to become an actor or at least a "writer".
- Geminis can't stand stress - neither physical nor mental.
- Even though a Gemini loves to entertain guests, at best, he will have nothing more to offer than soda and chips. Usually though, it's just his endless and pointless ramblings.
Healing a broken heart
(Major Essay Number 2 ko sa English.. wla lang.. trip kong ipost d2 para masaya.. ahehehe.. baka makatulong sa iba e.. wakekeke.. )
Everybody has problems, whether financial matters or in academics. Some of them think about their job or where to find one. And, some have issues about love. Love occurs when two persons are mutually concerned for each other. When that concern vanishes, break-ups occur and a weary heart emerges.
The best way to mend a broken heart is letting it out through communication because in this way you come to the reality that a relationship is over. Confide to a close friend when you are in conflict. Some people trust their friends more than any other because they feel that they can best relate to them. One factor for this is that sometimes, friends were able to experience the same problems as they had and maybe one can seek advice from them. Release all your anxieties to a friend to feel better.
Studies show that when people talk of their problems, they tend to easily get over it and move on. Talking to a parent may also help because they understand you the most and they might even have faced similar problems. Parents are also human and in one way or another, they are already veterans with life’s challenges. It would not hurt if you try to talk to your parents about your issues; after all, they are present in your life to guide you.
If you are not comfortable of sharing your problems with a friend or with your parents, you may consider talking to a priest. Priests are also good listeners. They have their own unique wisdom about love. Sometimes, other priests also experienced love when they were in their teenage years so it would not be a waste of effort if you try to consult a priest.
Being workaholic or study-holic is not a way to overcome grief because it remains in us unless we actually feel the emotion. Some people would advice you to do other things to repress the pain. They might suggest that you focus your attention on the things that are more important like earning a good salary or having good grades in school. Many of the broken-hearted tend to follow these advices. They go to the gym to take their mind off the problem and try to have a “healthy lifestyle”. This diversion of attention most probably would not heal the pain. Instead, it can make the situation worse. Like cancer, that continues to grow malignantly until you can’t bear the pain. That pain clings deeper and deeper and will eventually hang unto you forever while you busy yourself with other things.
Meeting new people may redirect you priorities on love but it may cause the rebounding kind of love, a false love. According to psychologists, when a person is depressed over a failed relationship, they tend to be attracted to the one who will comfort them. Subconsciously, this kind of love is also revenge to the one who broke your heart. It may be a motive that you could make your ex-partner jealous by going out with someone. This situation usually causes twice as painful as you have experienced because the foundation of your “new-found” love is not based on true love but on vengeance, meaning your love or relationship would be easily fail.
As they say:” It takes two to tangle”. A problem is caused by two individuals. You should know that you also committed a mistake. You have contributed to the problem that caused the break-up of your relationship. Therefore, in order to grow, analyze your contributions, your errors. By acknowledging your mistakes, you will learn from them and you will be able to avoid committing the same mistakes in the future.
After you have realized that you committed mistakes, what more for others? They also commit mistakes because we are all human beings and nobody is perfect. Accept the reality that we should forgive because we, ourselves, are not ideal. Think. Do you want to be despised all your life because you did something wrong to a particular person? The honest answer would be a ‘No’. No one likes to be hated for their entire life. You should learn to forgive if you hope to be forgiven. And when there is forgiveness, there is acceptance. Acceptance is the phase wherein we realize our wrongs; this is where we learn from our mistakes. This is the stage where muddled things from the past become clearer. And what could you do in this stage? You could talk to that person who hurt you. Send him or her a message to meet up, that you want to talk. When he or she agrees, go to a place that embodies a private ambiance. Discuss with that person the problems you both encountered and consolidate for possible solutions. Express your feelings and your thoughts at that very moment.
It may seem hard but it is the best way to achieve acceptance. And when you get to that stage wherein you take responsibility of your wrongs, then and only then that healing is realized.
Everybody has problems, whether financial matters or in academics. Some of them think about their job or where to find one. And, some have issues about love. Love occurs when two persons are mutually concerned for each other. When that concern vanishes, break-ups occur and a weary heart emerges.
The best way to mend a broken heart is letting it out through communication because in this way you come to the reality that a relationship is over. Confide to a close friend when you are in conflict. Some people trust their friends more than any other because they feel that they can best relate to them. One factor for this is that sometimes, friends were able to experience the same problems as they had and maybe one can seek advice from them. Release all your anxieties to a friend to feel better.
Studies show that when people talk of their problems, they tend to easily get over it and move on. Talking to a parent may also help because they understand you the most and they might even have faced similar problems. Parents are also human and in one way or another, they are already veterans with life’s challenges. It would not hurt if you try to talk to your parents about your issues; after all, they are present in your life to guide you.
If you are not comfortable of sharing your problems with a friend or with your parents, you may consider talking to a priest. Priests are also good listeners. They have their own unique wisdom about love. Sometimes, other priests also experienced love when they were in their teenage years so it would not be a waste of effort if you try to consult a priest.
Being workaholic or study-holic is not a way to overcome grief because it remains in us unless we actually feel the emotion. Some people would advice you to do other things to repress the pain. They might suggest that you focus your attention on the things that are more important like earning a good salary or having good grades in school. Many of the broken-hearted tend to follow these advices. They go to the gym to take their mind off the problem and try to have a “healthy lifestyle”. This diversion of attention most probably would not heal the pain. Instead, it can make the situation worse. Like cancer, that continues to grow malignantly until you can’t bear the pain. That pain clings deeper and deeper and will eventually hang unto you forever while you busy yourself with other things.
Meeting new people may redirect you priorities on love but it may cause the rebounding kind of love, a false love. According to psychologists, when a person is depressed over a failed relationship, they tend to be attracted to the one who will comfort them. Subconsciously, this kind of love is also revenge to the one who broke your heart. It may be a motive that you could make your ex-partner jealous by going out with someone. This situation usually causes twice as painful as you have experienced because the foundation of your “new-found” love is not based on true love but on vengeance, meaning your love or relationship would be easily fail.
As they say:” It takes two to tangle”. A problem is caused by two individuals. You should know that you also committed a mistake. You have contributed to the problem that caused the break-up of your relationship. Therefore, in order to grow, analyze your contributions, your errors. By acknowledging your mistakes, you will learn from them and you will be able to avoid committing the same mistakes in the future.
After you have realized that you committed mistakes, what more for others? They also commit mistakes because we are all human beings and nobody is perfect. Accept the reality that we should forgive because we, ourselves, are not ideal. Think. Do you want to be despised all your life because you did something wrong to a particular person? The honest answer would be a ‘No’. No one likes to be hated for their entire life. You should learn to forgive if you hope to be forgiven. And when there is forgiveness, there is acceptance. Acceptance is the phase wherein we realize our wrongs; this is where we learn from our mistakes. This is the stage where muddled things from the past become clearer. And what could you do in this stage? You could talk to that person who hurt you. Send him or her a message to meet up, that you want to talk. When he or she agrees, go to a place that embodies a private ambiance. Discuss with that person the problems you both encountered and consolidate for possible solutions. Express your feelings and your thoughts at that very moment.
It may seem hard but it is the best way to achieve acceptance. And when you get to that stage wherein you take responsibility of your wrongs, then and only then that healing is realized.
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